I sit here looking back at everything that has happened in the last year, alot has happened and alot of that has been so hard for me, going in to surgery excited for a new start in life, I had such high expectations of the surgery changing so much in my life, and in some ways life has changed, well to be honest my whole life has changed since surgery, just not in the ways that I thought it would.
When I first told my dad that I was going to have surgery he was not the happiest, he could not see why I would want to have surgery, but he came around to the idea, and everytime I spoke to him he would ask me if I had a date yet, he got really excited because he could now see why I was going to have the surgery, and his support meant everything to me, knowing that my dad was on board with something that I was doing felt amazing.
I am the black sheep of my family and that will never change, I was such a disappointment to my family, especially my dad, I am his only girl and his baby and that will never change but I lived a life that my dad never approved and I have hurt him in so many ways and that was never my intention, but I’m not the perfect little girl he thought I was, I try my hardest to do things that will make him happy and proud of me, but with everything I do, I just seem to disappoint him even more, all I ever want is to show my dad that I am doing my best, I want him to be proud of his little girl, I want his blessings with the things that I do, but I just seem to be going in the wrong direction to make him proud, I’m sure I will make him proud one day, but until then all I can do is keep trying to keep going with my life.
There are things in my life that I have not told people because I am scared of the disapproval, but I am living my life my way and not anyone else’s way, I have finally started to see that I have to put myself first and honestly that is so hard for me, because I have lived helping others and putting others first and that has just been me, I am finding this other life I have started really hard, I don’t really know how to put myself first.
Something else that I am finding really hard is that I am in a relationship now and I am so happy with my partner, my partner can’t have kids and I have always wanted children, but that was never an issue because there are so many other ways of having children, my bestie asked me one day if I would give up having children to be with my partner and my answer was YES I would, but I did not think I would have to because of the many ways that I could be a parent, even though my partner is unable to have kids, as of this week me and my partner has spoken and they have told me that they don’t think at their age that they could do the whole parent thing, and that’s okay because I will do anything to be with them including making one of the hard decisions that I have had to think about in my life and that is respecting my partner with the fact that they don’t want children, I am still trying to get my head around this but that’s also okay, my partner said to me that they don’t want to stop me from being happy and they are worried that this is going to make me unhappy, and with them knowing that I have depression and some of the things I have done in the past because of my depression, it’s hard for them but I am so happy when I am with my partner, they bring the best out in me, and that is all I want in life, is to be the best me I can be, I can’t see life without them, children or not, I am dedicated to them I don’t want to live life without them, i fell so deeply in love with my partner, not for what they have or don’t have but for them, I saw the inside and that is what I love about them, they are just like me in so many ways they just want to make others happy. I sit here laughing because I wonder what on earth they see in me, why they are happy with me, they care so much about my happiness and that is beautiful, I guess others see a different side to what we ourselves see. I always want to ask are you sure you want to be with me knowing how I get sometimes, but love is such an amazing, beautiful thing, I can’t stop thinking about my partner no matter what, I catch my self smiling everytime I think of them, I want to spend the rest of our life’s together no matter what happens I am here for the long run, at the moment we are doing long distance, my partner lives over 400 kilometres away from each other and yes that is so hard for us both, but we are making it work. I have never felt this way about anyone ever before, I had shut so much of myself off, and my partner has opened those doors back up, and I am so thankful for that there is noone else I would rather have open those parts that I had shut off, I love them whole heartedly and I would not want them to change anything. I love them exactly how they are, and will support anything that they choose to do, I know that there will be people that do not agree with this but I’m happy and that should be all that matters